My Mother, My Friend (A Berry Meme Response)

Hello Readers!

Today’s post is brought to you by the letter B…as in it is a Berry Meme response!  (Yes I know technically it should be an S, but roll with me on this one.) I will warn you this is a rather wordy post!  So I will put the photo up first for any who are all about the pictures.

Mother & Daughter 2k

|CREDITS| hair (on both) > [LeLutka]-ALVINA | Lark’s dress > *On A Lark* Ainsley NEW | crown (on both) > *On A Lark* Melody Crown | Silly’s Dress > *On A Lark* Hannah ~ Snow NEW | Silly’s Sandals > *On A Lark* Walker Sandal Female | Bench > *On A Lark* Twig Bench Cuddles Version | Table > *On A Lark* Twig Table | Silly’s Skin > Deesses by Natalie Wells

I have been VERY overdue in visiting my SL mom and my Mother’s Day post reminded me of that very clearly.  As soon as I posted it, I linked her and asked her if we could get together, then Berry’s meme came out and I thought perhaps my Mom might play along.  After showing me a few tricks in PhotoShop to create the above photo, we got right to the meme and I was happy to see that Lark was not only intrigued, but amused by it.

So here is me cutting to the chase with the meme questions:
[18:21] Ƥrisilla (silly.avro): What is the number of contacts on your Second Life Friends List?
[18:21] Ƥrisilla (silly.avro): 143

And here is my sweet mother Lark reminding me how she prefers role play:
[18:22] Lark (discovering.destiny): Looked to her daughter, the furrows on her brow showing. ‘Really? I am not sure I can count that high. Let me look.’ She sighed, not even aware what the number was. ‘One thousand and sixty two.’

[18:24] Ƥrisilla (silly.avro) laughs as she realizes they are now in rp mode and stared at her wide eyed, her mouth falling open some “One thousand and sixty two??” The surprise was very evident in her expression as well as her tone. She swallowed hard and looked sheepish. She refrained from cursing in her mother’s presence and finally replied “That is quite the number Mother, you are clearly much more popular than I ever imagined and that really is not surprising at all.”

[18:25] Lark (discovering.destiny): Shook her head. ‘Not popular, just I am . . . . well . .. old.’

[18:26] Ƥrisilla (silly.avro) chuckled and cleared her throat as she asked the next question. She was certain this meme was WAY more interesting than she thought it would be with her mother. “Are you picky about who you add to your list or do you usually add most people? As for me, I add any who want to be my friend and not try to fan girl others with my friend requests.”

[18:29] Lark (discovering.destiny): Eyes drifted up to the sky for a few moments. ‘You know, alot of these are from the groups I have been a part of. Then there are those who are my children . . . and no, do NOT ask me to count that.’ She winked at her daughter for she loved each and every one of her children. ‘Then there are customers, wonderful and supportive they are, many of whom have friended me over time. So they come from all walks. Now, as for do I accept all who ask? The way I see it is if someone has thought enough of me to ask, then of course I will add them to my list.’

[18:33] Ƥrisilla (silly.avro) smiled at her mother’s sweet reply. “That sounds just like you Mother.” She chuckled at the children comment. She was quite aware she had more siblings than she could count and that was just a testament to the loving heart of her mother. She asked the next question “Who is your oldest contact?” She paused to check her own and share the answer “Mine is my original avatar who shall remain nameless. If we don’t count her then it is my real life dad’s avatar who shall also remain nameless.” She chuckled then added “The oldest contact I have who isn’t me or my dad is Rhyobo Moger.”

[18:35] Lark (discovering.destiny): Did not even bother to look for she remembered it well. ‘It was years ago, at a Harvard Business School event where I met someone, a Broadway producer. I was in consulting and he asked me if I knew of Second Life. He wanted me to help him explore business opportunities in this forum. Anyway, his name is Trip and he was the original owner of the Broadway sims. Sadly, I believe he has left Second Life.’

[18:40] Ƥrisilla (silly.avro) nodded sincerely as she listened intently to her mother’s replies. She enjoyed each one, for she spent far too little time with her mother lately given her work in SL fashion. “I never knew that Mother, how very impressive!” She paused then added “It is always sad when someone chooses to leave SL, but I do respect the person’s choice to do so.” She then looked to Berry’s list of questions and continued “Who is your newest contact?” She grinned as she looked back at her mother and shared hers “AnneMarit Jarvinen. She is the owner of KaTink, a pose and more store. I have admired her work and recently begun blogging for her. She is a lovely person.”

[18:43] Lark (discovering.destiny): Her eyes lit up. ‘Just today, I was helping a customer. He was at the We Love RP event and had a question. So I wandered over and we chatted. He seemed pleased with someone taking time with him and offered me friendship. Kenneth was his name.’ She recalled the meeting and offered her daughter a thoughtful look. ‘But daughter of mine, be careful where you meet people these days. You never know.’

[18:44] Ƥrisilla (silly.avro) chuckled and nodded “Yes of course Mother…be wary of strangers…” she winked and referred to her list “Do you know every single person on your list? As for me, with as tiny as a list that I have, I do know who each person is and why they are there. I only ever turn down blind friend requests as it is a prerequisite of mine that anyone I add is because we have talked or worked together before.”

[18:46] Lark (discovering.destiny): Leaned closer to her daughter, her hand resting on her thigh. ‘You know, at one point or another I knew them for like you, I do not take blind requests. But it seems that so many change names. So it’s difficult to keep up. Or,’ she paused here, reflecting on the notion, ‘or is it just my age catching up to me?’

[18:50] Ƥrisilla (silly.avro) grinned and nodded, resting a hand over her mother’s at her thigh. “Age?” She chuckled “No, you are as lovely and youthful as always. I would agree that as time marches on however, and people change, and friends lists grow to one thousand sixty-two…” She smirked “I imagine it gets hard to keep track of everyone.” She looked to the questions again “How many do you speak to on a daily and weekly basis? As for me, that is hard to say. I speak to many on a weekly basis, if I had to guess it might be around 10 or so.” She smiled as she looked to her mother and wondered what her reply might be.
[18:51] Ƥrisilla (silly.avro) added “On a daily basis it is probably more like 3-5.”

[18:53] Lark (discovering.destiny): Thoughtfully nodded and started to count on her fingers. ‘Hmmmm. Daily? I would hazard a guess of about fifteen or twenty, plus or minus on a given day. Some are friends or family, some are other designers, and some customers. One thing is for sure, that even on a quiet day, there will always be pings in my ear.’ Then she leaned in again. ‘Just remember, friends and family come first.’

[18:56] Ƥrisilla (silly.avro) chuckled softly as she listened and nodded as that sounded just like her mother. She squeezed her hand as she leaned in “I have never doubted that Mother. You have always been there for me when I need you, and I hope you know that is true for you as well.” She smiled lovingly at her then asked the next question “How many do you see/get together with in-world on a daily/weekly basis? I usually see about 3 of friends on a daily basis. Weekly? That varies, depends on if there is a fashion event or not!” she laughed.

[18:58] Lark (discovering.destiny): ‘Well, the in person visits are fewer. So many are interested in having a question answered or asking about something they wish to order. But visits like these, well, they are special and happen two are three times a week. And then, let me not forget my daughter and building partner. The amazing Bella Domela. We talk for hours daily while we build.’ Leaning close again and with a whisper, ‘You know, she is uber talented.’

[19:03] Ƥrisilla (silly.avro) nodded once more “I figured that might be the case for you. I know you are creating and that takes a lot of time, but I have also admired your commitment to role play, family, and friends.” she chuckled at her mother’s whisper about Bella. “Yes, I do recall her work well and I have no doubt in her talents.” She then asked the next question “Who on your list do you have the closest relationship with? For me this is hard to answer as I am very blessed to have so many who are very close to me…” She leaned in this time “Including you of course. If I had to name the others they would be Collin, Liat, Geths, and Nariko.”

[19:07] Lark (discovering.destiny): Reached for her hand, her fingers wrapping around hers. ‘You are asking hard questions now. This is somewhat like asking a parent to choose between children. So, to begin with, my children and theirs are all dear to me. And of course my mother as well. Then there are some who are like family. For instance, Marley, Lupus, Selo, Colton, Xan, Amun, and Isis.’ She paused here. ‘I think this is a good place to stop, for I am quite confident I am missing someone in this.’

[19:10] Ƥrisilla (silly.avro) chuckled and squeezed her hand in response “Yes Berry dives deep with these final questions. Even as I ponder the next, I don’t really have a reply.” She would then read it aloud “Who do you wish you knew better?” She paused and looked at her mother as if she might find the answer in her eyes, then sighed. “There are many on my list I would like to know better, I want to know all my friends a bit better.” She smiled in a cheesy way as if she had said ‘World Peace’ was her answer and resisted doing a pageant wave.

[19:14] Lark (discovering.destiny): Had to laugh at her reply, for it was sooooo, her. ‘You said that well. And I would have to echo the same sentiment. But if I were to name names, it would be those who I have lost in this world, and in the real world as well. Three who are important to me have departed. Bythos, who was my mate, Brently, who was my granddaughter, and Midnight Loon, who was an amazing musician in both worlds. If I were permitted, I would wish more time with each of these amazing individuals.’ She sat back, pausing in deep thought.

[19:20] Ƥrisilla (silly.avro) just stared at her mother as her words hung in the air, the gentle breeze catching a wisp of her blonde hair. That answer was soooo her and soooo heartfelt. “What a truly lovely reply Mother. The depth of your feeling for those close to you is truly inspiring.” She took a deep breath then asked the next “How did you meet most of the people on your list? Now this is an easy one. Most of the friends on my list are from my work in SL fashion. I do have some who have known me since well before then when I was a grid explorer, role player, and meeroo breeder. Which brings me to the next question, Do you ever clean out your list? No, I don’t unless I have put an avatar away, and it’s friends are no longer active. That happened with this avatar as it has with others of mine. However, when I am active on one avatar in particular I never ‘clean’ the list and I admit it always stings a little when I see someone has ‘cleaned’ me off theirs. I am the type who doesn’t speak until spoken to when it comes to messaging
[19:20] Ƥrisilla (silly.avro):  others. My silence doesn’t mean I don’t care, it is more that I don’t want to bother a friend unless I absolutely have to. And whenever any of my friends message me I always reply. I think most of my friends understand that about me.” She grinned at took a breath at her rather long winded response.
[19:20] Ƥrisilla (silly.avro): POST WALL! WOOT!

[19:25] Lark (discovering.destiny): ‘Hmmm. Well, aside for those I was in groups with, my family, and customers . . . actually, I think that about covers it. Then her eyes widened some. ‘Oh, and then there were those early fashion shows.’ She winked to Silly, reminded of fond memories indeed. ‘As for cleaning out?’ She only shook her head. ‘Who has the time for that? I have at this point surrendered to an out of control list.’ she shrugged some, then found herself watching the butterflies flitting about.

[19:31] Ƥrisilla (silly.avro) grinned at the fond memory of role player fashion shows, and laughs softly as her mother’s attention drifted to the butterflies flitting lazily about. She had to pause and enjoy the ambiance of her mother’s home, it was such a reflection of the lady of the land, so peaceful and welcoming. She knew they had been at this for quite a bit of time now and her mother was certainly tired or had other things to see to “Last two questions” she announced softly, a bit sad to see the time spent with her mother coming to an end “Do you have a crush on someone in your list? No, I don’t.” She replied matter of factly. She shot her mother a knowing look then asked the last “Is there anyone on your list that you would trust with your password? Yes there are and I have given my password to some of those closest to me. If anything were to happen to me in RL, heaven forbid, I would want my SL family and friends to know and not be left wondering what happened to me.”

[19:36] Lark (discovering.destiny): A finger held up to her lips as she thought about how to answer. ‘A crush? Me? I am far far too old for such things.’ Then leaning in, she whispered. ‘And if there were such a person, I would not speak of it. And as for sharing my password? I would trust a few here to have it, but have not handed it out. I think of it much like mapping rights. there are a few I have shared those with over time, but not many. Some things are best kept to yourself.’ Lark scooted closer and gave Silly a kiss on her cheek.

[19:39] Ƥrisilla (silly.avro) laughed gently at her mother’s reply, then kissed her cheek in reply. She rose and extended a hand to her with an adoring smile. “Thank you so much for spending this time with me Mother, I have missed moments like these with you. I should not let my work get so much in the way with those I love and care about.”

[19:42] Lark (discovering.destiny): ‘You are welcome any time, my Silly.’ She smiled and rose, her back creaking some as she did. ‘Good night, my dear.’

Thank you SO much for reading all this!  I hope you enjoyed it as much as I did.  I have read some great replies.  Thanks to Berry as always for such a fun and creative way of getting all of us to share and get to know one another a bit better!


“Every time you smile at someone, it is an action of love, a gift to that person, a beautiful thing.”
~ Mother Teresa

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